Ultimate Guide to Weddings in the Philippines 

Weddings in the Philippines have always been considered a grand celebration for many Filipinos. 

 

Family, friends, and relatives all come together to witness the union of two families. As an elaborate event, it is inevitable that a lot of decision-making goes into planning a wedding. After you say “yes” to getting married and before you can say “I do,” the bride and groom-to-be in the Philippines need to go through the various wedding planning stages. While weddings are ubiquitous events wherever you may be in the world, planning a wedding in the Philippines may be quite different than what we see portrayed in western television—not only because of the stark disparity of Filipino and Western culture but also because of the various traditions and processes that come with Philippine weddings. 

 

Traditional Filipino weddings require you to come up with a list of ninongs and ninangs to stand as wedding sponsors. You also need to obtain the necessary documents and requirements to ensure that you can push through with your wedding. With a lot to consider, it bears no question that weddings require meticulous planning. The list below features everything you need to know about planning a wedding so that you can create a memorable big day that you and your husband-to-be will never forget. 

 

a.) Set a realistic budget 

 

While there are some brides and grooms that dream of an elaborate event, there will be many of them who will be constrained to the budget, they said. That said, you should never proceed to plan a wedding without discussing with your partner just how much you want to spend for your celebration. As a practical couple, set a realistic budget that would not break the bank and still allow you to enjoy the wedding of your dreams. 

 

b.) Hire a wedding planner/coordinator 

To be able to enjoy your wedding day fully, it is best if you leave all the planning logistics to a wedding planner. That said, a good and effective wedding planner will truly be a blessing, depending on the kind of wedding you are planning. Be sure to read the reviews before deciding on one. Also, it is recommended to have an idea of what wedding planner services you need in order to select the best fit. 

 

c.) Wedding Requirements 

 

Wherever you may choose to solemnize your marriage—whether that may be in a church, a garden, or even in a civil ceremony, you and your partner will need to secure the necessary papers to have a wedding that is legally binding. For all the weddings celebrated and solemnized in the Philippines, a valid marriage license is required. 

 

d.) Wedding ceremony and reception venues 

During the initial stages of wedding planning, you and your partner need to decide on where you wish to have your wedding ceremony and your reception. In fact, you need to book your wedding ceremony venue and reception venue first before booking any other vendor. Choose venues that you and your partner both love, but make sure that both would fall within your budget. Catholic weddings need to be celebrated in a church, so you need to a separate venue. Civil ceremonies and Christian weddings can be celebrated in the same venue where you will be having your reception. Be sure to choose a place that can accommodate all the guests you want to be present on your big day. 

 

e.) Styling and floral arrangements 

Celebrating your big day would be incomplete without flowers to bedeck your wedding ceremony and reception venue. With that in mind, you and your partner need to think of a theme that resonates with both of you and incorporate that into the Styling of your event. From there, choose the wedding supplier that can make your vision come true—from the bridal bouquet down to the flower centerpieces. 

 

f.) Catering and food 

One of the best things about weddings is the food that is served. That said, do not let your guests leave hungry at your wedding. So, choose enough food to accommodate your guests. Keep in mind that the better the food served is, the happier your guests will be. 

g.) Wedding Cake 

Your wedding cake can act as the centerpiece of your event or can simply be an aesthetic addition to the overall Styling of your venue. So, whether you are choosing a minimalist naked cake or an elaborate multi-tiered one, make sure that it is one you would cut during the wedding reception. Like everything else, be sure to choose one that goes with your wedding them and decors. 

 

h.) Photography and videography 

Immortalize the memories of your big day by booking wedding photographers and videographers. You want every memorable moment captured on film, so be sure to choose your wedding photographers and videographers wisely. These are the memories you will want to last forever, so hire ones with a good eye for style. 

 

i.) Hair and Makeup 

It goes without question that a hair and makeup stylist will be hired for the bride and groom. However, the wedding entourage and maybe a few of the couple’s family members would require hair and makeup artists as well. Choose one with good reviews and who can also pull off the kind of look you want on your wedding day. 

 

j.) Wedding favors and giveaways 

Customarily, brides and grooms give out wedding favors and souvenirs as a token of their appreciation for being there on their biggest day. Wedding favors are an excellent way of appreciating your guests for attending your wedding. Like everything else, be sure to choose one that fits your wedding theme and also one that your guests will love. 

 

Making a Scheduled Program for Your Kid’s Party

Regardless of whether you are planning a first or 7th birthday program, scheduling a list of activities for your kid’s party is actually not that difficult.  Ideally, you should book a venue for the said party to take place. Take note of your invitees and how many guests you wish to attend. Small group parties are possible to have at home but for bigger ones that have more attendees, it might be more appropriate to book them elsewhere such as The Blue Leaf Events Venue or someplace else. Once you already have your venue locked down, you need to come up with an idea of the activities you want to do and how you want the event to go. From there, everything will fall into place easily.

But before you make a schedule of your birthday program, you need to know a few things first:

1) Duration of the party – The most ideal duration for a kids’ party is 2 to 3 hours. This is to avoid the children from getting bored and to avoid the party from getting out of control and stray from the program. Usually, this is also the ideal duration for your suppliers and host since some of them still have another event to attend to for the next hour.

2) Time of the party – The most ideal time block for a kids’ party during weekends is from 11am to 2pm. You wouldn’t want to invite your guests at 12nn for your party because at that time, they’ll already be expecting to eat lunch. This is also an ideal time for your host and suppliers before preparing for the afternoon events.

Now that you have an idea of the perfect time and duration to set for your party, here’s a standard program that we made to guide you in finalizing the program for your kid’s party

Sample 7th Birthday Program

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Head out to our blog for more tips and guides on planning your kids’ party.


Co-author: Jme Gonzalez, Vice President and Production Head of Party Links Events Corp. (920-0966, 0922-829-6980, [email protected])

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50+ Wedding Decoration Ideas

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As with any momentous occasions in life, weddings require the need for tasteful décor in order to bring the event to its fullest potential. It may even be argued that wedding decors are not so much of a bride’s option as a wedding necessity. After all, décors do not only involve a color scheme and a choice of carefully arranged flowers, they dictate the venue’s aesthetic and command the event’s overall ambiance. In this regard, weddings sans décor would be quite a boring event. As wedding decorations would help you in creating a unique wedding theme that is personal to both you and your husband-to-be, it pays to give it extra attention and focus during the wedding planning. More importantly, your choice in wedding decorations is considered a pivotal aspect in your big day insomuch that it decides the quality of your event and contributes to making your wedding memorable. So, determine what you want and thoroughly research your options to come up with the best aesthetic for your big day.

If you are looking for wedding decoration ideas to incorporate in your wedding plans, take a gander at the list below for various inspirations you can surely use on your wedding day:  

Wedding Aisle Decoration Ideas

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Walking down the aisle is one of the most-awaited anticipated moments on your wedding day. Of course, you would want everyone’s attention focused on you as you make your way to the altar. However, you do need to set up the stage for you walk tastefully enough that it enhances the flair and drama of your entrance instead of overwhelming it and detracting attention from you. You want to be careful with your choice of decors and choose only those that would give the aisle just the right panache to complement your walk to the altar. Here are some ideas:  

Custom Aisle Runner  

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Making a statement and a splash on your wedding day would be possible with a customized graphic runner. Instead of the drab and predictable typically red aisle runner, opt for something that makes more of an impact. You can customize it to not only include your names and wedding date, but you have a myriad of prints to choose from which would then complement just about any and every kind of ceremony décor.  

Floral Chair Tails

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If you have always wanted a whimsical ceremony that would rival fairytale romances, use floral chair tails as wedding aisle decorations and give your walk down the aisle more drama.  Globe string lights If you are holding your ceremony outdoors at dusk, you can light up your walk by using globe string lights as an aisle wedding décor. Alternatively, you may wish to weave them into a ceremony arch to make those wedding kiss photos pop.  

Statuesque Vases

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While this kind of aisle décor has seen in most wedding, it does get the job done of creating a beautiful ambiance for your walk down the aisle. Choose embellished vases positioned at the ends of your corridor to make a more striking and powerful impact.  

Geometric Vases

If you wish to go minimalist on your wedding decors all the while giving it a modern touch, incorporate prism-shaped or wire-wrought vases which can hold either candles or flowers. Cluster these at the end of the aisle or suspend them on your wedding arch for a more dramatic effect.

LED Candles  

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If you have always had a penchant for giving your aisle that warm glow of flickering candlelight sans the potential hazard (to your guests and your wedding dress) arrange remote-control or battery operated candles along with your walkway.  

Tastefully Strewn Petals  

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If you wish your entry will be sprinkled with flower petals sans the expensive cost, opt to drizzle, silk rose petals along the aisle before the guests arrive. To make the effect even more dramatic, have your flower girl toss them as she makes her way down the aisle.  

Welcome Sign  

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Give your guests a warm reception to your wedding ceremony by placing a wooden welcome sign placed near the aisle. Perfect for rustic themed weddings, this aisle décor just about sets the tone for a beautiful and romantic affair.

Brass Lanterns  

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Regardless of whether you opt to line them on your wedding aisle or group them together or even strung overhead, mini metal lanterns have a way of giving your ceremony an elegant and sophisticated feel.

Hot Air Balloon Paper Lanterns  

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If you wish to look for wedding decors that are genuinely out of the ordinary, choose paper lantern sets that complement your wedding theme and motif. Not only would this give your ceremony a fanciful feeling but it is a fashionable way to make a statement on your wedding.  

Wedding Guest Book Design Ideas

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One of the ways to recall your wedding day is to take a look back at the well-wishes your wedding guests gave you on that day. Instead of having your guests sign the traditional wedding guest book, opt for something that is a little more personal and unique with these ideas below:

Vintage Atlas  

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Opt for a more unconventional way of recalling your wedding guests by having them sign the pages of a vintage road atlas and then having them indicate the cities they are traveling from. Alternatively, they can opt to pitch in their suggestions of where you and your spouse should vacation to by signing on a list of countries they would have you visit.  

Painted Globe  

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If you want something that can double up as a unique décor piece in your living room, have your guests sign a chalkboard painted globe. Afterward, you can use this as an accent in your living room or home office.  

Re-use Wine Bottles  

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Instead of positioning your wedding guest book by the entrance where some of your guests can quickly forget to sign, station recycled wine bottles on each table at the reception and had your guests fill these with their messages. You can then open these in the future and reminisce about your wedding (and may even opt to open these on your golden anniversary).

Polaroids and Washi Tape

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Make your wedding guest book unforgettable by having your wedding guests DIY it for you. Have your guests take funny photos with the Polaroid camera and then affix it to a scrapbook with washi tape. From there, they can dedicate short messages to you and your spouse.  

Advice Coasters  

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Marital advice will always come in handy, and they are even more useful if they doubled up as nifty tableware. In this regard, have your guests dedicate you messages and marital advice on a piece of a coaster.  

The Sweetest Dictionary  

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Have an unconventional way of recalling your wedding day by having your guests circle a word on a carefully placed dictionary that they think best describes both of you. If they wish to comment further, they can even add a little note in the margin.  

Shadowbox Art  

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Have your guests sign wooden hearts and then have them drop it into a shadowbox and display it behind a thin pane of glass. If you think hearts are too cheesy, there are many alternative shapes for wooden tokens and frame styles. Look for one that best symbolizes the both of you.  

Modern Prints

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Print a personalized monogram which could either be a photo of both you and your spouse or one that is more unconventional (such as your thumbprints). Ensure there is a lot of white space for your family and friends to sign and then hang it somewhere in your future home.  

Game Board  

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Put a little spin into your game nights by choosing a game board that provokes the best memories. If you regularly have game nights, have your guests sign a game board or even game blocks such as Jenga or puzzle pieces. In this regard, you will remember all the warm memories you had on your big day when you bring them out and play.  

Snail Mail  

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If you look forward to getting mail every single day, ask your wedding guests to sign postcards and designate a patient or indulgent relative or friend to mail a couple to you each week or month—whichever works.

Autographed Vinyl  

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Are you and your spouse music enthusiasts? If you are, you should scour garage sales and find old albums which you can use for your guest book. Afterward, you have a unique piece of wall décor that provokes romantic feelings and memories every time you look at it.

Guided Questions  

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If you wish to have your guests have a more active role in your new life together as a couple, give them a set of guided questions and then ask them to name your first pet, where you should live, etc.    

Holiday Décor  

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Incorporate feelings of sentimentality in your annual holiday decoration by utilizing holiday decors as an alternative way to have your wedding guests dedicate messages to you. Provide your guests with paint markers where they can sign on Christmas balls and write messages for you.  

Date Night Inspiration

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Save yourself the overwhelming confusion on what to do on date nights by having your wedding guests come up with suggestions for you. Collect a jar of date night ideas from your guests by having them signpost it and collecting it inside a mason jar.  

Nostalgic Notes  

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If you are looking for a casual and humorous way to look back on your wedding day, provide your guests with a Mad Libs-style questionnaire, collect them after the wedding and turn them into a book, it is a fun way to reminisce about your big day and would make for an excellent coffee table book.  

Wedding Hanging Decors  

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One of the predicted wedding trends for the year 2019 is hanging decors. While they have certainly been around for quite a while, hanging wedding decors give your wedding day extra drama and flair by pulling the eyes of your wedding guests up and skyward.  Here are some excellent ideas you can use:

Flowers  

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You can never go wrong with flowers. Apart from giving your wedding venue a whimsical ambiance, hanging flowers make for an excellent floral backdrop which you and your guests can use for photos.  

Paper Lanterns  

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If you wish to go with a rustic theme for your wedding, then incorporate paper lanterns in your reception area. They make for excellent alternative lighting options and would double as an accented décor.

Terrariums  

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Give your wedding venue a sophisticated look by utilizing terrariums as hanging décor. While they might be unconventional, they have proven to be versatile. You can hang them as they are with only a simple candle inside or choose to fill them with flowers or even layers of rock and stone. Apart from being a classy wedding décor option, it provides for limitless customization choices.  

Crystal Garland  

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For a more dramatic flair and classic ambiance, utilize crystal garlands as hanging wedding décor in your wedding venue. With the myriad of application techniques, you can do, the sparkling strands of gems and add to any of your décor pieces that need a little sparkle and glimmer.  

Tissue Pompoms  

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Are you looking for wedding décor that is both beautiful and inexpensive? Then look no further than tissue pompoms! Tissue pompoms go bold and big in style without breaking the bank.

Ribbons  

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While ribbons are often added as accents to bags or baskets, they can be the perfect décor to add personality to your wedding venue. As it comes in a variety of colors, you can choose that match your theme correctly.  

Feathers  

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For a unique look that works seamlessly outdoors then try hanging feathers. Feathers come in a variety of shapes, sizes, and colors insomuch that they match almost every wedding theme there is.  

Flower Balls  

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Break away from conventional wedding hanging decors by opting to bunch your flowers together to form into a ball. Instead of making the table centerpieces, choose to hang them instead.

Lanterns  

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Take your wedding decors to a whole new level by choosing to hang your lanterns instead of making them as centerpieces and table decors. Apart from creating a stunning look, it also provides additional illumination to your venue—particularly if you are celebrating outdoors.  

Birdcages  

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Hanging birdcages is an excellent way to inject a bit of flamboyance to your wedding event. As one of the more popular choices for wedding decors, birdcages come in almost every size and color. Even hanging just a few by your reception’s entrance would already give it enough sophistication and a dash of panache.   

String Lights  

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String lights have come a long way from being regarded as favorite holiday décor. Today, it has been utilized as hanging and overhead decors to give wedding venues a rustic feel as well as a warm and inviting glow.

Mason Jars  

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For a necessary condiment or beverage container, mason jars can be incredibly versatile insomuch that they can even be used as wedding decors. With this in mind, they can also be utilized as hanging décor to serve as makeshift chandeliers or even from chairs. Customize them to your theme and fill them up with flowers, lights, candles and so much more.  

Banners

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Banners make for excellent additions in weddings with rustic themes. Apart from conveying sweet messages and displaying announcements, they would look great strewn above tables.

Doilies  

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While they might be reminiscent of your old grandma’s décor in the living room, doilies make for excellent hanging décor additions in your wedding venue. Apart from giving your reception a classic touch, they can be utilized to enhance a country-side themed wedding.  

Wedding Décor Centerpiece Ideas

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Opt for something a little different than merely plopping floral bouquets on your tables. After all, what makes a wedding venue beautiful is the little touches and eye-catching details that would ultimately culminate in a tastefully thought-of aesthetic. So, instead of simply letting the wedding catering staff apply their own decors, incorporate some of your own. Here are some of the alternative wedding centerpiece ideas you can utilize for your wedding reception:  

Sprawling Centerpieces

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To make more of an impact, go big with your table centerpieces by utilizing sprawling and magnificent decors. Adorn your tables with cascading floral centerpieces such as big floral arrangements and the like.  

Orange Themed Centerpiece  

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If you have autumn or fall for a wedding theme, then you might want to incorporate more orange tones to your wedding venue. To do this, arrange rows of oranges at the center of a table and insert occasional flowers here and there. Apart from adding a pop of color, this is one centerpiece which your guests can eat.  

Desert-Inspired Centerpieces  

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Take a cue from beautiful sunsets and use them as inspiration for your desert-themed wedding. Mix verdant foliage with tea lights to dress up your tables and add the occasional chunk of wood as an accent.  

Bouncy Ball Centerpiece  

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Couples who are young at heart will love this unique centerpiece. Fill a vase with bouncy balls to make for a more colorful and playful décor.

Lego Bowl Centerpiece

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For a genuinely unique yet eye-catching centerpiece, fill a bowl with Lego and stick in a sweet chalkboard sign.  

Fishbowls  

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Give your centerpieces a bit more life by adding something that is alive. Buy a bunch of goldfish from your local pet store and display them in a circular bowl with pebbles to match your décor. To ensure that you remain environment-friendly, be sure to release the fish to the sea after your wedding.  

Rainbow Centerpieces  

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For rainbow-themed weddings, utilize colorful centerpieces by adding flowers of every imaginable color. However, to ensure that the centerpiece gets the attention it deserves to ensure that it is only decorated at the head of the table and the rest of the decors should remain monochrome.  

Grass Table Runner  

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Who says that the only plant life you can use at your weddings will be flowers? Add some grass to your tables and use it as a runner to add drama to your meals.  

Upside Down Wine Glasses  

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Reinvent your centerpieces by turning traditional ideas such as flipping wine glass centerpieces upside down. To make it pop, place flowers, marbles or other decors underneath the cup.

Glittery Wine Bottles

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Recycle wine bottles and turn them into beautiful wedding table centerpieces by covering them in ombre glitter. Combine them with flowers and other plant life for maximum effect.

Painted Logs  

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Rustic and contemporary vibe can be achieved by painting the ends of your logs in bright hues. Stack them up in the center of your table to serve as the main centerpiece.

Vintage Books  

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Couples who love to read or have a dedicated library at home can put their books to good use by utilizing them as centerpieces. Showcase some of the darlings in your collection by putting them up for display as a table centerpiece. Who knows? It might serve as excellent conversation starters among your guests.

Game boards

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Showcase your fun-loving side by utilizing game boards as centerpieces. Scrabble seems to be most apt for weddings as it allows you to spell out little messages for your guests to see.

While your wedding decorations do not have to cost you a lot, they do have to be personal and unique to you. More importantly, they should reflect your creative side as well as your uniqueness as a couple. With the myriad of wedding décor ideas above, you should be able to choose one that would suit the kind of wedding you wish to have.      

 

50+ Debut Party Ideas  

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For most girls, Debut is the most essential coming of age that calls out for celebration. 

It marks a momentous event and is more often than not accompanied by an elaborate celebration that would signify a woman’s transition from a girl into a woman. In this regard, many girls have regarded their eighteenth birthday as a momentous rite of passage wherein their introduction to the adult world is marked by a myriad of traditions to be done and executed during their debut party. For this reason, many girls (with some as young as five) would start dreaming about their debut party the moment they are made aware of it.  

As with any successful event, throwing a big debut celebration requires meticulous planning, smart budgeting, and precise timing. At the early stages of your debut planning, you would have to decide on a theme to ensure that the other aspects of your debut would fall into place seamlessly. More importantly, your concept dictates the elements of your party and centralizes them: from your dress to the décor and even to the menu. As identifying the motif and theme of your debut party is an integral aspect of your party planning, deciding what it is as early as you can is better. To help you arrive at a decision, here are some of the standard and major debut themes which you can take from followed by a list of debut ideas and games you can utilize during your party:   


   MAJOR DEBUT THEME IDEAS

Classic

If you are the type of girl who is a stickler for tradition, then you should go for a classic debut theme by utilizing only traditional elements and aspects of your celebration. Be that classy and elegant lady to be from your gown down to your event styling.

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Modern

If you pride yourself as a non-conformist with a penchant for themes that are more unconventional and contemporary, then you might want to give your debut celebrations a modern spin. Instead of following trends and sticking to tradition, opt to ditch the gown and opt for an elegant dress suit or even a unique outfit. Whatever you wish is entirely up to you so long as it is your debut after all.  

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Boho Debut Theme  

Bohemian theme is a showcase of culture and interesting things the world has to offer, starting from clothes the debutante will be wearing it will probably give that aesthetic and comfort. Free-spirited girls who have a penchant for whimsical things should take their cue from boho inspired events like Coachella and celebrities like Vanessa Hudgens and Liza Soberano. Boho-inspired debuts are a lot less elaborate and more laid-back. Typically, bohemian debut parties draw inspiration from music festivals and events and usually held on secluded resorts and beaches.  

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Fairy Tale Theme  

If your debut celebration themes are mainly about princess-y undertones and promises of Happily Ever After then a fairytale themed debut is just for you. Some of the things that resonate with fairy tale themed debuts are gorgeous ball gowns, crowns, bedecked arches, and storybook endings. With this in mind, channel your dreams into one grand and an elaborate party that a princess like you deserves.  Belle of Beauty and the Beasts cites a beautiful idea for your Debut party, show off your young, spirited and brave side by having this theme as your reference. 


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Personal Theme

A personal theme can be anything that your heart desires. It can be a combination of two or more ideas found in this list or an entirely new concept you have thought of. Regardless of what it is, the important thing is that it showcases who you are as a girl and as a woman. More importantly, your debut’s theme should be something you feel yourself resonating with.   

OTHER DEBUT THEMES


Crafty Theme   

 

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Instead of exclusively buying your party decors and favors, why not give it a personal touch by crafting them up yourselves? If you have the extra time and are willing to do the extra work, then you should put your creative side to work by coming up with unique and personalized debut decors and favors.

  
Alice in Wonderland Theme   

A girl who enters a portal to another world  full of fantastic and  extraordinary happenings, is the concept of Alice in Wonderland. Take your party guests into an entirely new and curious world with a matching long table for the Mad Hatter’s party. Stay true to your theme by turning your debut into a tea party bash. 


The Great Gatsby Theme   

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Take a trip back in time and have your guests dancing their hearts out in the Jazz era. To give your debut party that authentic roaring twenties feel,  incorporate aspects from the Great Gatsby party. Throw a party like Gatsby himself and go big with the glitter and confetti.


Polaroid Party

  
For a girl with an unceasing fondness of posting photos on Instagram, you should have a polaroid party. Similarly, girls who love taking picture perfect pictures with only the best filters should go with this theme.  You can build your do-it-yourself polariod wall where your guests can take a snap for their Instagram worthy photos. 


Parisian   

 

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If you have a flair for the romantic, then you can never go wrong with a Parisian theme. Add French accents to your party decors and combine two of your favorite colors to make the overall aesthetic of your debut party pop out. Oh, and you should never forget to dedicate a place of honor for the Eiffel tower. Ideally, this should be someplace where you and your guests can take photos.   


Fairy-Tale Theme   

 

For girls who love happily-ever-after endings, go with a Cinderella-like theme and incorporate all of the unique and classic elements of that particular fairytale.   


Old Hollywood Glamour Party   

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Who wouldn’t love to ramp walk with glam and feel that star studded aura? Go classic and bring out your inner Audrey Hepburn or other iconic female actresses in the past and go with an old Hollywood glam theme. To give your event a more vintage feel, ask your guests to dress up strictly either in black or white.   


Purple Enchanted Forest   

If you have a inclination for all things purple and a unique liking for anything magical, go with a purple enchanted forest theme. It combines both purple and anything enchanted which would consequently give you a debut party unlike any other.   


Red Riding Hood Black and Red Theme   

 

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As a gothic girl whose favorite colors are black and red, you do not want a debut that is affiliated with Halloween. Instead, apply them in a less inferior theme by going with a Red Riding hood motif. With this theme, you do not need to go too dark and still indulge the eerie girl in you.   


Black and White Theme   

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If you wish to stand out and make a grand entrance, choose party decors and favors solely in black and white. Make a splash by arriving in a bold color such as dark red  or gold. For maximum effect, ask your guests to strictly follow the theme by coming in black or white clothing.  Expect to stand out and be a head turner once you showcase exclusive side on your party.    


Travel Theme   

 

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If you are a traveler or wish to see more of the world, then you should incorporate the travel theme in your debut. Choose your favorite landmarks all over the world and designate them as centerpieces.   


Garden Theme   

 

Have the sky of stars as your natural backdrop and potentially save on décor by choosing an outdoor venue. Take the party outside and enjoy the night sky. Bring your place to its full potential by utilizing paper lanterns or fairy lights.    


Marie Antoinette Theme   

 

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As a fan of the romantic Victorian era (or perhaps the French monarch herself), you should look no further than dressing up your debut venue in a Marie Antoinette theme. Apply Victorian plush accents to your party and be sure to utilize a lot of gold. For best results, gold and pastel colors work well together.   Make sure also that your hairstyle will go along with the theme, if  you don’t wish to wear a wig at least put some hair dress. 


Oscars   

 

Girls who have always dreamed of walking on the red carpet should have an Oscars Night as a theme for their debut. Complete the scene by rolling out a red carpet by the entrance as well as asking your guests to be in their best and Oscar-worthy ensembles.   


Beach Inspired Party  

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If you always had a thing for the beach then ditch the gowns, fancy dresses, and cakey makeup and ask your guests to arrive in their best beachwear instead. Forget about the girl who needed to be in heels and best of her elegant fashion.  Choose a resort for a venue and break out your best swimwear for your debut.  


Hunger Games Party   

 

If you have been an avid fan of Katniss Everdeen or just the book series “Hunger Games,” you can incorporate elements and themes of the book into your debut party. Your party can be a fun homage to the movie, and you can stay true to the idea by adding Mockingjay accents as well as fun games.  You can arrive in a costume portraying an archer like Katniss and bring out your dauntless personality. 


Masquerade   



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Add a little mystery and intrigue to your debut by having everyone arrive in masks. Turn your debut party into a night of fun and anonymity by instructing guests not to remove their covers until midnight.   


Super Hero Themed Party   

 

If you have always been an avid fan of DC or Marvel comics, incorporate the superhero theme into your debut. Ask your guests to arrive in costume but strictly indicate who you would be entering as to avoid being upstaged by another guest who had a similar superhero costume in mind.  


Movie Night by the Pool   

 

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If elaborate parties are not your thing and if you wish to have a more intimate affair without missing any of the fun of traditional debut parties, you can always opt for movie night by the pool. Gather a number of your closest friends and have an outdoor movie night by the pool. Play some movies on an overhead projector and have everyone swim in the pool while watching movies.    

Zombie Tag   

 

If you are an ultra fan of TV series such as The Walking Dead and the like, then you will enjoy having a Zombie Tag themed debut. You can even skip the traditional eighteen roses, candles and treasures segment of the appearance and devote your party to playing a game of zombie tag.    


Hogwarts Adventure  

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Passionate fans of Harry Potter are going to love this theme. Decorate your tables with various ideas found from the book such as a candelabra for your centerpiece, better use long tables to incorporate more of the Harry Potter feels or movie series and fashion your menu after the food items found in the book.  Every Potterhead is sure to have a grand time during this themed debut.   


Geocaching Treasure Hunt   

 

Instead of having an eighteen treasures segment, have a geocaching treasure hunt instead. This game utilizes GPS coordinates and smartphones to locate hidden caches all over your venue. With your guests participating in the fun, it will surely be a fun way to remember your party.   Amaze your guests when technology and innovation collide on your special day. 


A Travel Splurge   

 

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If you do not wish to have a party and are more receptive to seeing new places by yourself, you can explore your newfound independence by traveling just by yourself and with a set of friends instead. After all, you do not necessarily need to throw an elaborate party to celebrate your eighteenth birthday. You can spend it learning about new places and cultures with your friends instead.   


Night in a Limousine   

 

If you have a preference for the more delicate things in life and would want to experience a night out in the city on board your very own limousine, ditch the elaborate party and cruise around town with your friends in a rented limousine. Alternatively (and if money permits), you may choose to have the party still and arrive in a limo.   



Fancy Dress Up Party

 

 

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In essence, debuts are generally considered as affairs wherein guests are encouraged to dress up. However, some guests might find the alternative by wearing cocktail dresses. To prevent this from happening, indicate a strict dress code in your invitations and ask your guests to arrive in their best attires.

   
Video Game Marathon   


If you are a video game enthusiast, opt to include aspects of video games in your debut. You can ask your guests to come as their favorite video game character, and you can decorate your debut venue accordingly as well.   


A Night in the Casino   

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Make your debut party more fun by incorporating casino games not only as a theme but as a functional game as well. Not only would slot machines and roulette tables make for excellent party décor, but they would also give your guests hours of playing fun.   


Barbecue Party   

If what you have in mind is a low-key party then opt to have a barbecue party and have your guests arrive in an ensemble fit for grilling.  In the hype of Korean grilling relatively prominent for the concept “samgyupsal” it would be so much fun to incorporate this to your party.


Bohemian Party   

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Look for a suitable venue situated near the beach and channel your inner boho goddess by throwing a bohemian themed debut party.  Find comfort by eliminating chairs instead choose to sit on pillows. 


Rock Concert   

If you are into rock music or even a sport, ask your folks to score you and your friends a few tickets to watch your favorite rock band play or to attend a sporting event. To make it extra special, try to see if it is possible to have your birthday announced on the big screen.   


Coachella/Music Festival   

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If Music Festivals and Coachella are more of your speed, book local music acts to serve as entertainment and designate a stage for them Coachella style. To stay true to the theme, plop up tents which would serve a dual purpose: décor and resting places for ocean waves watching.   


Beach Glam   

If you believe yourself to be a daughter of the sea, have a beach glam themed debut party and utilized beach décor concepts and elements.  A bonfire at night adds more feels to the party while roasting marshmallow and sharing stories as the night gets deeper.


Glam Rock   

If you want your inner rock star to shine through, have a glam rock party wherein you and your guests can still arrive in gowns but with punk rock undertones.   

Sailing Party  

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For a truly memorable event, ask your parents to rent a yacht for you where you can hold your eighteenth debut party. From there, the night sky can serve as your backdrop, and you and your guests can have a fun time sailing the ocean while enjoying the festivities.   You can also drink up until late night or you can also choose to enjoy the water by providing cool activities like swimming and snorkeling. 


Nautical Theme   

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Have servers dressed up as navy cadets and ask your eighteen roses to dress up in ship captain’s garb. More importantly, your menu and décor should include nautical themes.   


Hawaiian Theme   

If a fancy luau is what you have in mind for your eighteenth birthday, choose a Hawaiian Theme for your debut and have your guests sip from pineapple glasses.    


Fireworks Party   

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Designate an outdoor area for your eighteenth debut party and set off a fireworks display as a finale for you and your guests to enjoy.   


Mocktail Party   

If your parents do not think you are old enough to be imbibing alcoholic beverages just yet, station a mocktail bar that would serve you and your friends similar club and bar drinks sans the alcoholic content.   

Seventies Themed Party   

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Take a trip down memory lane by throwing an eighteenth birthday bash seventies style. Everything from your décor down to your music should be from the seventies era. Oh, and ideally you should ask your guests to come dressed from the seventies era as well.  Feed your ears with the great music of the seventies and dance the night away. 

Costume Party  

If you are the type of girl, who wishes to dress up with no particular theme in mind, ask your guests to come as their favorite characters or costumes. This idea is an excellent party theme for those girls whose birthdays fall around October and could double up as a Halloween celebration.    


Nineties Themed Party

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If you are a big fan of the nineties, then pay homage to the era by dedicating your eighteenth birthday to it. Choose the 90s as a theme and have your guests arrive with costumes reminiscent of the early Britney Spears years or during the Spice Girls era.   


Cosplay Party   

If you love dressing up as your favorite anime or video game character, ask your guests to follow suit with a Cosplay Party. To make sure that everyone makes the effort of dressing up, indicate that a prize awaits the best-dressed guest.   


Aladdin Theme Party   

Incorporate a world of magic into your celebration through this theme. Better have colorful ceiling drapings and don’t miss out to put the famous magic carpet, it can be the floor design on the debutante’s area and smoke effects can also add feels to the event.

DEBUT GAME IDEAS    

Describe Me   

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An excellent game to break the ice is “Describe Me.” To play, ask a friend or your debut coordinator to tape a slip of paper to the back of each of the guests’ shirts. Once they start mingling with the other guests, have them write their first impressions of each other on the slop of paper. Be sure to make it clear that comments are clean and friendly. Once everyone has interacted with each other, have them take off the paper sheets and write their names on the back and submit it to you. Read the comments aloud and see who can guess the person described. The person who can predict the most guests correctly wins the game.   


Fun Facts   

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An excellent way to find out just how well your friends know you are to have fun facts kind of game. Ask your guests to participate and have the party host ask you some questions such as your favorite color, first crush, etc. Your guests’ answers should match yours to score a point.   If this game is played at the end part of the program better have consequences for non winners to actually brought out their competitive side. Consequences could include talent show off, jumping off the pool or drinking wine that doesn’t taste that good. 


Scavenger Hunt   

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This game is pretty much like I spy but with less the effort. Before your guests arrive, write down what prizes you have for them on pieces of paper and hide these in hidden areas. Have your guests search for them during the game segment of your program.   

Live Band Karaoke   

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If you and your friends have a penchant for belting out songs, then stage a live karaoke session with your hired band. You can either have a panel of judges or ask the audience to vote for their favorite contestant by clapping.    


Name That Tune  

 

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To play this game, you require a premade playlist and a set of answers. It can be a set of your favorite songs or songs that would match the theme of your debut. Play about thirty seconds of each song and ask your guests to guess the name of the song.    


Truth, Truth, Lie  

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Hand a card to each guest the moment they arrive and ask them to write three facts of themselves. Two of these facts must be accurate while one should be a lie. Once everyone is ready to play the game, have the guest read there, and everyone else should work out which one is the lie. The person with the most right answers wins.   

Teen’s Choice Awards  

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If you do not mind sharing the spotlight with your friends, then you can stage an awards night at the end of your program. At each table, have a set of cards for the number of guests seated at the table. Each guest should cast their vote among a myriad of categories to your liking. It can include the best-dressed guest, the sweetest couple, etc.   



Planning your debut does not have to be difficult. With the internet at your disposal, you have a world of party inspiration ideas at your hands. All you need to do is research them. Celebrate this momentous event by planning the perfect birthday party that is unique and personal to you. With the ideas above, you are all set to make a grand event filled with fond memories of your transition from a girl to a woman. These memories would then be worth reminiscing as your journey through adulthood.   

 

Philippine Wedding Song Ideas 2019

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Without a doubt, music plays a pivotal role in weddings.

While a wedding invitation would be the prelude to your event, it is actually your music that provides the ambiance. In a momentous social event, weddings often associate with big reunions wherein family members, relatives and friends from even far-flung areas would come back to witness the joyful union of bride and groom. As it is an event marked with much importance, it would be clear why affianced couples would want to create the best mood and ambiance for their wedding guests and ensure that every single one of their guests would be having a grand time. With that, music comes in and plays an imperative role. The music and wedding songs played in the various segments of your wedding ceremony has a significant role in creating a mood, dictating the ambiance and assuring a pleasant and joyful background for the wedding.

Apart from that, the music you choose helps in lightening up the atmosphere and keeps your guests entertained. More importantly, it can give your wedding guests a subtle nod and hint at the kind songs and genres you and your spouse find yourselves listening and gravitating. In this regard, the music and songs you choose for your wedding would also give your guests an insight as to who you and your spouse are as a couple. However, with a myriad of romantic and love songs at a couple’s disposal, it is understandable why some couples would meet the endeavor of choosing songs with much difficulty.

After all, with the sheer number of options they have, it is quite easy to be overwhelmed. With this in mind, this article has collected a set of useful tips to help couples select the perfect songs followed by a suggestion of wedding songs for the various parts of their wedding ceremony.

TIPS FOR CHOOSING YOUR WEDDING SONGS

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Choosing your wedding songs might seem like a daunting task. After all, you want to create the perfect ambiance, and you cannot do this without the aid of an expertly curated playlist. Your options might be limitless, but you can start by listing down the songs you do like. Once you come up with a list of songs, you can then refine and condense it to suit the various segments of your wedding ceremony aptly. Here are the multiple steps to take in choosing your music:

Getting Started

One of the initial things to consider when it comes to curating a playlist for your wedding is to decide whether you are hiring a band or a DJ (or both if you can afford it). Naturally, cost and expenses will be a pivotal factor in helping you decide. However, beyond estimating how much you are going to fork up for the service, there are other important points you need to consider. These points include knowing what tone you want to set and what kind of theme you have in mind (traditional, unique or alternative). Once you have an idea of what you want, choosing between a DJ and a band will be so much easier.

Picking Key Wedding Songs

Throughout the day, there will be moments you want to highlight. You can achieve this with the appropriate music that is both fitting for the mood. To ensure underscored moments are with the right music, work with your DJ or band beforehand.

Pre-ceremony music

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Your pre-ceremony music helps set the tone for your wedding and played while your guests are arriving and trying to find their seats. Choose songs that are low-key but upbeat. More often than not, music without lyrics works perfectly for this segment.

Processional

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It is the music played the moment your wedding party is about to enter. Ideally, you want to send them down the aisle in style. Choose an upbeat song that gives their entrance more of an impact. However, be sure that the music you choose would not make your entry anti-climactic.

Bridal Entrance

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Typically, a bride’s wedding march is one that should capture and captivate the people in the room. After all, you want to have everyone’s eyes on you as you make your way down the aisle. Choose an instrumental version of a song that has a poignant meaning to you.

Cocktail Hour

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While waiting for you to arrive at your reception venue, your wedding guests would be enjoying cocktails. Dictate the vibe and mood by choosing appropriate music for it. Of course, you want them to anticipate your arrival so pick a song that is upbeat but not enough to have people dancing just yet.

Reception Entrance

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More often than not, your wedding entourage would also make their entrance to your reception hall. In this regard, you can ask them for the song they wish to have played the moment they enter. Alternatively, you can choose a set of preselected songs that have a special meaning to you and the members of your bridal entourage.

First Dance

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Ideally, this is where you and your spouse should play your song. Unfortunately, identifying what this is can be somewhat difficult unless you and your spouse already know what your song is. If you do not, you can start by thinking the kind of dance you want to have (intimate, fun, silly or choreographed) and ask what kind of reaction you want to evoke from your guests (surprise or sentimentality). From there, choosing your first dance song would be so much easier.

Dinner Music

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Similar to the cocktail hour, you can give the band or your DJ a heads up as to the kind of mood and vibe you wish to create and have them choose the songs to play. Alternatively, you can have a set of preselected music for which they can play. Remember, dinner time is where mingling and conversation usually happens, so keep things mellow.

THE TOP SONGS PLAYED IN FILIPINO WEDDINGS

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Filipinos are known to be big music lovers. Majority of them have a particular partiality for love and romantic songs which is evidenced by the curated playlist every Filipino wedding would seemingly play. Sure, these ballads of love and romantic melodies might be apt considering the occasion, but they do have a reputation of being overused and overplayed in weddings over and over again.

In any case, here are the top 10 songs that have become synonymous with Filipino weddings throughout the years insomuch that they have become a standard staple in wedding celebrations across the country. With that considered, you should tread carefully and decide for yourself whether any of the songs below are worthy of being played during your wedding day.

The Way You Look Tonight

Revived and made famous by Frank Sinatra and Michael Buble, the song became a Filipino wedding staple when included in two wedding-themed movies namely Father of the Bride (1991) and My Best Friend’s Wedding (1997).

Ngayon at Kailanman

A local entry in this list, Ngayon at Kailanman first performed by Basil Valdez and revived by Sharon Cuneta. The song’s straightforward message of deep love and affection has resonated with many Filipino couples which makes it a standard tune in most local weddings.

We’ve Only Just Begun

Released by The Carpenters in the year 1970, the song was intended for a commercial featuring a newlywed couple driving into the sunset. However, the message of starting a new life together is not lost on Filipinos as this song remains to be a famous wedding anthem for most Filipino weddings.

Pangako

The song title itself translates to the word promise which happens to be a message most Filipino couples find themselves gravitating to when it comes to their love. For this reason, the song remains to be a popular choice when it comes to creating a wedding playlist.

Sanaý Wala Nang Wakas

This local song has strong undertones and messages of deep undying and unwavering love which makes it a popular choice for a wedding ballad. However, the song is best rendered and performed by a choir if used for a wedding.

All My Life

Although this song never attained worldwide popularity and did not do so well in the US Billboard charts, the song’s message made a mark on Filipinos. It has won the hearts of many Filipino couples and has since then become one of the most-played love songs at a Filipino wedding.

I Finally Found Someone

As an original soundtrack for a romantic movie, it would be understandable why the song would make its way to weddings. However, what captured the Filipinos hearts is how the song was incorporated in the movie and its lyrics.

The Gift

Although intended as a holiday track, this favorite wedding song became such a hit with the Filipinos after Jim Brickman gave his rendition of the song together with Martina Mcbride.

Forevermore

Performed by an iconic local band, the song’s simple melody has made its way to the hearts of Filipinos. With the well-crafted lyrics complemented by the accompaniment of piano and guitar, the song became a known theme song for most Filipinos.

Ikaw

Similarly used in a local movie with the same title, this is one of the songs with a message most Filipinos find themselves resonating. Typically used as a bridal march, the song has since then worked its way to many Filipino weddings.

Wedding Entrance Songs

Fun Wedding Entrance Songs

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Take a break from the conventional and choose a song that best defines and highlights the fun element of your relationship. Instead of the sappy love songs, pick something a little more upbeat and gets you in the mood to celebrate.

Raise Your Glass by P!nk

This song is perfect entrance track for couples who wish to be toasted to as they make their way to the reception hall as a newlywed couple.

Feel So Close by Calvin Harris

Couples who have a proclivity for EDM tracks will think this song apt as background music for their entrance.

Shut Up and Dance by Walk the Moon

If you and your spouse are big on breaking out some moves, then you will love dancing to the beat of your entrance march with this track.

Crazy in Love

If you genuinely want to make a statement about how in love you are with each other, channel your inner Beyoncé and break into a dance the moment you make your entrance to the room. Make it complete by choosing one of her most famous and beloved tracks.

Funny Wedding Entrance Songs

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Give your guests an insider’s view of the less serious aspects in your relationship such as the sense of humor you and your spouse possess. If you wish to lighten up the mood, get your party off to a great start with a funny wedding reception entrance song.

All I Do Is Win by DJ Khaled

Technically, both you and your spouse won by marrying each other on that day which makes this song humorous and apt at the same time.

Dear Future Husband by Megan Trainor

For brides who wish to give their husbands a subtle hint then this song is the perfect song to make your entrance as a newlywed couple.

Popular Wedding Entrance Songs

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These tracks are beloved and popular. Although some of them are more contemporary than the rest, these tracks are known by all and are fitting for the moment. More importantly, it can get your wedding guests to sing and dance along to the words as you make your grand entrance.

Forever by Chris Brown

While this song is rather upbeat for a track that filled with so much emotion, Forever by Chris Brown is the best song for your entrance to if you wish to mark your wedding as the beginning of eternity.

Marry You by Bruno Mars

Typical and conventional but sweet, this track sets the tone for a delightful evening ahead.

Wedding Ceremony Songs (For Walking In and Walking Out)

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Commonly known as the processional song, the hymns you and your party will walk down the aisle to should not only set the tone for your event but should also hold deep meaning to you. Ideally, you should choose one song for everyone while you have your separate song for your grand entrance. Here are some of the traditional choices for both walking in and walking out of the aisle.

Marchial Wedding Ceremony Songs

Bridal Chorus, Wagner

More commonly known as Here Comes the Bride, Wagner’s Bridal Chorus is a classic wedding staple that remains popular until today. This song is one of the go-to choices for a majority of prospective brides.

Canon in D, Pachelbel

Another common choice among brides, Canon in D by Pachelbel is a gorgeous piece of music beautifully played by a traditional quartet. If a classic entrance is what you are aiming for, you will never go wrong with this piece.

A Thousand Years, The Piano Guys

Initially performed by Christina Perri, A Thousand Years is a popular choice for wedding entrances once couples realized how beautiful its instrumentals are. Albeit more modern and contemporary than the rest of the entries in this list, it is the perfect choice for couples who cannot decide between a classic instrumental or more modern love song with vocals.

Marry Me, Train

If you have a thing for modern songs but are unsure as to how to proceed or which song to choose, Marry Me by Train makes the perfect choice for you. The melody and lyrics are both beautiful. More importantly, the tempo is just right for a processional.

Recessional Wedding Ceremony Songs

Wedding March, Mendelssohn

A conventional and traditional choice for the wedding recessional, Mendelssohn’s Wedding March is a grand organ piece that capitalizes on high drama.

First Day of My Life, Bright Eyes

If you have a penchant for the acoustics, then this song is an excellent choice for you. Apart from being an unconventional alternative, it is also a unique way to start the first day of your married life.

Arrival of the Queen Sheba, Handel

While initially intended to signify one’s arrival, it works better as a recessional. This classical piece is high in tempo and is a joyful beat to exit.

Wedding First Dance Song Ideas

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Undoubtedly, picking out the first song to dance to will be met with much difficulty unless you and your partner have already figured out on a song beforehand. Typically, your first dance should be to the song that defines you as a couple. However, if you have not figured out what that is yet, here are some ideas.

Happy by Pharell

Happy by Pharell might be a little too upbeat for most couples, it is a beautiful song to start your journey as a couple. After all, your wedding day should be the happiest day of your life so you might as well choose a song that best defines it.

I’m Gonna Make You My Wife by Whispers

For brides who want something a little more fitting and romantic, this song by Whispers is an incredibly apt tune to have your first dance. It is especially perfect for couples who want a song that is heavy on emotions and carries a poignant message.

Lucky by Jason Mraz and Colbie Caillat

For couples who are feeling lucky, they married their best friend, this song by Jason Mraz and Colbie Caillat is a beautiful song with perfect lyrics for your first dance.

Spend My Life With You by Tamia and Eric Benet

Couples who wish to dance to underrated songs with deep meanings should choose this track for their first dance. The song wonderfully conveys the essence of love and defines the moment you know you have found the one.

Better Together by Jack Johnson

A little under the radar but a favorite of many couples, this song by Jack Johnson is the perfect melody to dance to if you are a couple who loves playful acoustic song.

As music sets the tone for your wedding event, keep in mind to choose the most appropriate ones that stir the right emotions and convey a message of love and harmony to your guests. Ensure that the songs you have picked out are the perfect sit for the ceremony you have in mind and have planned.

Wedding Money Saving Tips

saving moneyAs what an old Filipino saying goes, “Ang kasal ay hindi parang mainit na kanin na pag napaso ka, iluluwa mo na” (Marriage is not a hot rice when you get burnt, you will simply spit it out). True enough, the journey to a lasting and happy relationship is not a bed of roses – so as the preparation for the wedding day.

We can go on to a long list of wishes and dreams about our ideal wedding. Some would love to have theirs in grandeur while others can have their own in simplicity. Whichever you choose to have, it would still need a tremendous amount of money. It may be depending on one’s context on how much you can go for a wedding. Others may find a hard time raising funds for a simple wedding while some can go for millions and hundreds of millions.

Nevertheless, our culture of being “matipid” or thrifty and being wise buyers will never go whatever our budget is. Of course, we like to maximize our hard-earned money, right? In this article, we listed some of the few things that could help you a couple of bucks for your wedding preps and day itself:

Narrow down your guest list

We definitely would love to celebrate this significant occasion with the ones that are dear to us. There are cases that we invite people just for the sake of asking so they won’t have anything to say (in Tagalog, magtampo). But throughout this article, we will put on a particular lens of being practical and thrifty, alright? So basically, inviting people just for the sake of it is 100% impractical and not worth it.

You can disagree, but an event like weddings are supposed to be intimate and private. Yes, you want to share your happiness and the momentous occasion to others. But who are those “others”? Is it indispensable for you to invite the person you don’t even talk to at the office? Out of politeness, maybe but practicality and being honest, no. Besides, his or her presence won’t probably matter to you (come on, let us be honest!)

Trimming down your guest list in almost every event is one of the key factors to save some money. If you are being thrifty and would want to celebrate your wedding in the most intimate sense, ask the ones that are very important to you, your partner or both of you. The list should consist of the people which absence will significantly affect your day. The “out of courtesy” invitations mentality may be hard to eradicate but if you want to save and have a more intimidate wedding, think again.

Master your logistic needs

In first glance, rentals of tables, chairs and other equipment may seem not to hurt your budget. But if you are going to look a little bit closer, it will get a huge chunk of your money. There should be a couple of minutes or hours for the ingress and egress, and how many hours will be allocated for the event proper.

Aside from narrowing your guest list, what you can do to maximize your logistics is by thinking creative ways on how to fit more people in an area. The arrangement of tables and chairs should be able to cater more people so you can limit the number of materials you will be renting.

Moreover, maybe you can find wedding venues that will be worth it for its price. Its aesthetics and value for money are not compromised. Also, the place may be more accessible so your other providers, guests, and even you won’t be finding a hard time going there. It saves not only money but also energy. The place itself, minus many decorations and alterations should stand on its own.

Look for combo or bundle deals

Concerning looking more sulit wedding venues, there are combo or bundle deals offered by different catering services. The prices may be quite lower than renting two different providers. It will be easier for you to ask for discounts since you are getting more services from them.

Be sure that the taste and quality of food are not forsaken just to save some money. Satisfy the hunger of your guests and yourself with scrumptious food. There are catering services that give free food tasting. In that sense, you can get a better grip of their offers.

On the other hand, other wedding venues give complimentary decorations and other services as well. There is nothing wrong with asking and taking your chance for better pricing. It is okay to ask for computations or estimates, and you can price match on your own.

Maximize your connections

Preparing for events and celebrations like weddings need a good pool of workers or workforce. From the contacts, providers, and actual labor, you need people to work with. If only you can do everything on your own but you can’t. This is where partnerships come in, and it costs us some money.

Maximizing your connections do not entirely mean you ask everything for free since you know someone that can help you. Well, if they present themselves to give their products and services for free, thank you so much! It would probably be one of the best gifts you will receive. But if they can offer you discounts and other tipid deals, still great! As long as you get more for your money, everything else is better.

Now, you should remember you couldn’t always get what you want. You can’t simply ask your photographer friends for free service for that business might be their bread and butter. Who knows, they can give you affordable deals, right? There is no harm in trying, but you should measure yourself if your requests are still reachable. Moreover, maximizing connections also mean you can ask for referrals and suggestions. They may not be the ones to give you products and services, but they will be able to provide you with better options.

Adding more into that, you can directly just ask help from your colleagues and relatives. Ask for their comments, suggestions, and recommendations. For sure, they are way more excited than you to get those things done!

Reuse or repurpose your flowers and accessories

Surprisingly, flowers and other accessories eat a chunk of your wedding budget especially if your wedding day is not a good time for flowers to bloom and accessories’ raw materials are harder to find. It’s not that you throw away your ideas of having this and that, but it will be more cost effective if you will reuse or repurpose.

Instead of having different sets of floral and accessories from the church or wedding venue to your reception, maybe you can just use the same set especially if these are not provided by your partners. Also, be careful in taking out your bouquet. You may be asked to pose some before the wedding proper itself so the flowers will get exposed and might dry up. Rehydrate them properly so its freshness won’t quickly fade away.

Be practical with your wedding dress and attire

Some might argue that wedding only happens once in a lifetime and you get to make it perfect. Just note that having things perfect do not entail expensiveness especially when it comes to clothing.

Again, using the lens of being practical and thrifty, buying a dress that costs thousands or hundreds of thousands which you will just use for a day or two, in less than 24 hours will leave your wallet broke. Sentimental value matter very much for other people perhaps explaining why they still opt to buy expensive clothes and keep it for the rest of their lives; but we say if you are trying to save, you don’t need to spend that much for something that you will use for only a couple of hours. Others bought their most treasured dresses and wedding attires in thrift shops and still give them the sentimental value.

You may want to have a uniform dress for all the attendees or at least for the entourage, but you have insufficient funds. Why not ask them to buy or look for their own? Just instruct them thoroughly and properly on the theme and motif. For sure they will understand that.

Search for cheaper alternatives

In general, you get to look for cheaper alternatives for almost everything that you will need for your wedding. It is okay if you settle for unbranded stuff as long as their durability and performance are as good as of branded things.

Never be afraid to go DIY! Experiment and see if you will save money if you do things on your own rather than buying or renting. Besides, whatever you do will have more personal touch since it is yourself who made those. You can ask others to help you as well. DIY will work perfectly for your invitations, photobooth, and souvenirs.

 

Lastly, do not borrow big amount of money just to push thru with your wedding. It means that you are still not financially able and ready to host your wedding and it’s okay. Give yourself and your partner more time to save money for your big day. There is no need to rush.

Your most awaited day does not need to haunt your bank accounts for the rest of your lives. With proper budgeting and tricks, you will still be able to pull off a grand day and enjoy the rest of your lives in peace.

 

Getting Over Your Wedding Jitters

nervous brideHaving wedding jitters is nothing but ordinary. The wedding day is probably one of the biggest, nerve-wracking and exciting celebrations a person would ever have. In an event as special like a wedding, it is common for people to feel sudden burst and a mix of emotions. Imagine you are stressed with the preparations and everything and excited yet nervous at the same time.

Making big decisions a few days before the wedding might not be advisable for others. If you are feeling kind of emotional and overwhelmed, it is not good for one to make a choice that concerns your relationship with your partner. A person feels very vulnerable when facing situations like weddings. Unfortunately, there some marriages postponed and even canceled when the height of emotions and whatnot collide with pressure and confusion, just a few days or weeks before the big day.

So if you feel like you need avenues to release those wedding jitters, go ahead! We searched some ways on how you could calm yourself and at the same time, be productive and well as you are preparing for your big day:

Go for spa and massage

Wedding jitters are not just all about the head. You might be feeling it since you are exhausted from doing all the preparations for your wedding. On the other hand, those activities might be another load of the emotional and mental stress you are going on right now. Nevertheless, you should consider going for spa and massage.

After a long day of hustling wedding preps, a great massage does feel like heaven! There are many spa and massage shops in malls and around the area. You do not need to go far and look for expensive ones. But if you have a definite place to go to, much better. You already know their style in massaging. Who knows, they might give you discounts, too!

If you do not like to have a massage by other people, invite your loved one to do it for you. Or maybe ask your friends or family member that you are comfortable with. There are some that do not want to be touched by others (even if they are professionally trained).

Getting a good massage a day or two before your wedding will be a fantastic way to relax (and your partner, too!). You get to release all the tensions in your muscles. As your body gets more rest and pampered, you will naturally glow. You will be more relaxed and at peace on your wedding day.

Keep your wedding week free from to-dos

As mentioned, those jitters are not just affected by the physical activities you are doing. What you think and feel has a lot to do with those wedding jitters. Thus, keeping your mind relaxed plays a significant role.

On the week of your matrimony, it will be highly beneficial if you keep it open. It means you have nothing much to do or big things to run or prepare. Most of the times, people got more tensioned and stressed as the day of big celebrations or events come near, and the wedding is no exception. You will get more overwhelmed if you are still doing a lot of tasks in the week of your wedding.

Preparing ahead of time is the key here. You cannot sit back and relax if you know that there are still tons of things to settle. This is where the pressure comes in high. That is why you and your partner should get things done before the wedding week. Finalizing and ironing the details may happen in that week but you get to make sure that there will be no more drastic changes. It will leave you stressed and panicky, and we do not want that!

If you still can’t keep yourself calm with all those things in your head, keep a check or to-do list. At least, you can say to yourself that there is nothing to worry about as everything is on track.

nervous groom
A nervous groom probably having some wedding jitters

Get enough sleep

Adults are recommended to get six to eight hours of sleep to let the body rest. It is for our body to relax, regenerate muscles, get enough nutrients and energy for the next day. It is hard to function when you do not have the right amount of sleep. So what more if you are going through something significant and nerve-wracking?

You become easily disoriented and distracted when you did not get enough rest. Sometimes, people get more irritated and stressed. We know how much important sleeping and resting is. If we, adults, can just go back in time and maximize our free time to sleep when we were kids!

Funnily yet, unfortunately, no matter how much we want to sleep, it is hard when you are excited, stressed or nervous. Sleeping pills or medications may help, but you should be very careful in taking such. You need proper medication or advice from a licensed doctor before taking any drugs. For you to be able to sleep comfortably, relax first. There are many applications readily available to help you clear your mind before you sleep. Maybe listening to soothing and relaxing songs would also help.

Go out with family and friends.

What can be more comforting if you hear the encouraging words and feel the support of your family and friends?

Going out with family and friends have both pros and cons. True enough, you may feel uplifted and more at ease when you mingle with your family and friends. Hanging out with them makes you happy. On the other hand, we cannot control whatever they will say. You might be expecting some words of encouragement, but they will tell otherwise. Instead of making you calmer, they can make your more panicky.

Nevertheless, their mere presence can soothe you in some ways. We suggest that you do something fun with your family and friends aside from dining or meeting in coffee shops. Why not stroll around malls, go skating, hike, swim and visit beautiful places. Do fun activities with them and divert all your attention away from the wedding. It is a time to think nothing about the marriage.

Do your hobbies

Needless to say, you are doing different stuff to divert your energy and attention. One efficient way is by doing your good old hobbies. You might have been busy running various errands for the wedding, and you forget some time for yourself. Well, surprise! Now is the right time to do those things again.

Do you like watching movies or TV series? Go on and snug yourself into your most comfortable sheets and pillows. Eat popcorn or ice cream. Invite your best friends or just do it alone or with your dogs. Do you miss cooking and baking? Do it now! You may want to give some of your workmates, relatives or start selling those to get some extra money.

Visit your wedding venue

Before you irk and be confused on how visiting your wedding venue helps you get over your wedding jitters, think again! We added this on the list for a simple reason: familiarize yourself with your site and event itself.

Feeling the vibes and making yourself comfortable by visiting your wedding venue will not happen in a snap of your fingers. There are some people that believes that getting more used to what is going to happen will help you get over nervousness or stress. On the other hand, there are others who get more nervous. We all work at our own pace and strategies.

But just to support this point, visiting your wedding venue will, hopefully, help you realize that there is nothing to worry about. Your big day will take place soon, and it’s going to be beautiful. All of your hard work will be paid off. Instead of getting anxious, you will just feel the excitement and joy. Imagine yourself and your partner, along with your family and friends gracing your beautiful venue. Feel the love and warmth the place gives you.

Engage yourself in sports or other physical activities

Most people release tension when they engage themselves in sports and physical activities. Physically, you were able to use your energy and divert your attention. Ironically, getting yourself tired relaxes your mind probably because you were able to use your energy well and release healthy chemicals in your body.

Morning or night jogs will help you reflect and focus on yourself. If you love or at least have interest in going to the gym, it will be good if you go back to working out. Not only you can put your energy and attention to good use, and you will be fit and healthy just in time for your wedding!

If you like it better with the company of other people, try sports played by two or teams like badminton, volleyball, basketball, and tennis. There more that you can do with your family and friends, as already stated above.

 

It is easy to say relax and have fun. Hopefully, the seven things listed above gave you an idea on how you could calm down and enjoy the days before your wedding day. There are still a lot of things that could help you. It might also be helpful remembering the things you had done when you faced nerve-wrecking situations before.

Tips For Your Next Romantic Getaway

Like what people say, keeping a balanced life is hard. Imagine juggling all responsibilities and tasks from your work, family, and relationships. It is hard but achieving the goal of keeping everything balanced is not impossible. Sometimes, a quick getaway would help us ease your mind.

Some studies show that relationships are what make our life happier and worth living. So we should not take our romantic relationships for granted. For that, here are some suggestions for your next getaways – relax and have fun with your loved one:

What To Do: A Short List of Suggestions

#1 Stroll

If you and your partner are looking for a quick break from all the bustle and hassle of your everyday lives, a fast yet quality stroll would probably suffice. Walking around your village or mall might be already romantic for many couples. Not all have the luxury of time to do that. It can be a treasure already! But really – whatever you do with your beloved is always unique and romantic.

Visit attractions or places near you or your partner’s house. It can be a mall, small park, playground, or even a cemetery (if you want a tranquil place to go). Maximize your time together by having a quality conversation.

#2 Travel

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ou raise your eyebrow and close your browser by thinking that traveling is not a heck of a good deal of affordable romantic getaways, think again! If you are checking your Facebook or other social media acco

unts, you will see that there are many cheap traveling offers – local and international. Also, there are blogs available to get some travel and tipid tips.

If you find time to check in Facebook posts shared by people on how far their PHP 1,000 can go, you will be surprised. The budget already includes the transportation, food, and accommodation. It will be cheaper if you will split the bills between the two of you (and it’s never wrong or evil).

#3 Reconnect with nature

We are social beings or social animals, termed by experts and other academians, that explains why we crave for a company and social interaction. Aside from being socially inclined, we also root from nature. All the things that we have now are produced by human – gadgets, appliances, clothes, almost everything! Naturally, we only have ourselves, animals, and our earth.

It would be an excellent romantic getaway to go back to our roots. You can go to a beach and swim, to a mountain to hike and trek as you enjoy the beauty of nature. What about camping in a forest or alike? It will be fun to have the company of your beloved in a place that touches our very core.

#4 Recreational activities

A simple bonding time with the love of your life will suffice all the longingness. Samples of recreational activities are exercising, reading books, writing, drawing, playing physical and online games, exercising or hitting the gym, or any hobby.

A getaway does not need to be a grand gesture. Simple things like the ones mentioned above will probably do. What matters most is that you have th

e company of the person you would love to be with. Doing recreational activities together with the person that you love relaxes you more. These actions do not need much interaction, but the mere fact that you are doing it with the love of your life makes it more fun.

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ventures

Indeed, romantic getaways are not all about the cheesiness and sweetness. Many couples are not after those things. Others are having fun

 

with adventurous stuff like cliff diving, camping, hiking, extreme rides, surfing, and the list goes on.

The fun and romantic thing about going on an adventure are that you have your partner with you. You may feel nervous and unsure of whatever you are doing at first, but with the presence and company of your beloved, somewhat it will be eased down, right? But if not, at least it will be the two of you that will be screaming for your lives.

#6 Staycation

If you are over and done with outdoor activities and alike, you probably would love to save yourself for a staycation. Staycation is a vacation where you are literally going to stay in a place. It can be just your place, or you can also rent a space around the area or a location of your choice (condominium unit in Tagaytay or the like).

Staycation might sound dull and boring, but for some, it is an excellent way to reconnect and bond with their partners. Others lay out some rules that they should follow like no gadgets and no work-related stuff. The homey vibes of having a staycation and having your partner with you make one memorable. You can do recreational activities together, binge watch series or movies, and play board games. There are a lot of things you can do together even if you are just staying in a place.

Next on this blog is another short list of where couples can go if they are after outdoors.

Where to go: Couples For Outdoors

La Mesa Eco Park

To do: picnic, jogging or strolling, swimming

One of the family favorites for get-together or mini-reunion is La Mesa Eco Park. Well, it is not merely just a park where you will walk around and lay your picnic mat. There are a lot of activities you can do in La Mesa Eco Park. The park is not hard to find, and the fees won’t hurt your wallet.

Cloud 9

To do: Stargazing, viewing of city lights, drink and eat, stay at their local hotel

Though there are some restaurants and hotels in Antipolo, Cloud 9 will always belong to the list that stands out. They have some sort of a tower which gives you a better view of the city lights. It can be reached thru crossing a hanging bridge. Thrilling and exciting at the same time! They also have an in-house restaurant and place where you can stay.

Pinto Art Museum

To do: art viewing, picture taking or pictorial

Another gem hidden around the Metro is Pinto Art Museum. If you are looking for a place where you can walk around and appreciate the beauty of nature and art at the same time, you have come to the right place. Aesthetically and location-wise, Pinto Art Museum will not disappoint you. Hundreds of arts and crafts wait for you there.

National Museum and Planetarium

To do: art viewing, picture taking or pictorial, perfect for history, art and star lovers

Where will you find Spolarium? Nowhere but in National Museum! Where can you get information and viewing of interesting information about the galaxy and stars? In the National Planetarium! Don’t get confused – National Museum and National Planetarium are separate locations. Nevertheless, both of the places are not hard to locate and go to.

Amusement Parks

Where to go: Enchanted Kingdom, Star City, Sand Box Pampanga, Skyranch Tagaytay

Aside from being the top picks for a field trip, amusement parks are perfect for your next get away! If you are looking for a place where you can scream and shout, laugh and cry, get a high dose of an adrenaline rush, there are lots of amusement parks in the country.

Tagaytay

To do: eat and drink, chill, visit Taal lake, horse riding.

After all the bustle and hassle in your work and other engagements, you definitely need a place where you can relax. If you and your partner do not have the luxury of time to travel that much, going to Tagaytay is a good move. With just around 2 to 5 hours (depending on the traffic and route taken), you can already have a cool breeze and list of activities to enjoy.

Baguio City

Where to go: Mines view park, Our Lady of Lourdes Grotto, SM Baguio, Café in the Sky
To do: Thrift shopping, strolling, chilling (literally)

You get to make sure your jacket and comfy pants are ready when you visit the City of Pines. There are routes that can lead you to Baguio within 5 hours instead of the usual 8-hour travel time. Need to say more, we are probably aware of the many things you can do in this beautiful city. Just be careful in visiting the place during Ber months, and Panagbenga festival as tons of people all around the country and globe will be there as well.

On a final note:

End the mindset of “finding time” because sometimes we just need to make time for all the things we need. The world will never stop and pause for a while to let us breathe. We need to keep going and set our priorities straight.

If we would want to have a life that is well lived, we should make sure that we make time for the things we need to prioritize. Our relationships with family and partner are essentials. A quick romantic getaway will never hurt your work.

What Should You Know About Prenuptial Agreement

Most probably, you have heard the term prenup a hundred of times already. If you are one of the people who are yet to tie the knot, some have asked you if you will have a prenup. But really, is it as of the same importance with fixing and planning for your wedding venue and catering services?

This article will be your guide on everything you should know about a prenuptial or premarital agreement.

prenuptial-agreementWhat is a prenuptial agreement?

First off, the prenup that we are pertaining to is not the photo shoot – it is the agreement. Prenuptial or premarital agreement (prenup in short) is honored by the law of the Philippines and most, if not all, countries. In the Philippines, it is called as marriage settlement or antenuptial contract.

When we say contract, it is a binding agreement between the parties involved. The parties should have consent or approval to the provisions and clauses of the deal. Of course, if the other side does not sign the said document, it will remain invalid.

In this case, a prenup is a contract that usually revolves around the assets and liabilities of individuals and making it exclusive or giving other conditions. If you are familiar with fundamental laws, all properties of individuals that are getting married will be considered as conjugal property. Meaning, even if you have the most contribution in buying the car but since you named it after the two of you or whatnot, in the event you will be filing separation, the car might not be given entirely to you. Another example is in the fact of your death, your partner and children will get your properties. So what happens if your partner will marry again? Will you let your spouse use your properties for his or her new family?

Starting from August 3, 1988, all properties that each own before and during their marriage are all considered to be conjugal properties. Yes, even if you are not yet married, the properties that your partner have is yours as well.

In this sense, prenup gives one a freedom and financial independence even if he or she is already married. That is why you must have heard celebrities getting their prenup before they tie the knot. Unfortunately, there have been a lot of misconceptions about prenups.

Interesting stats about prenup

The following statistics are rooted from Brandongaille’s article “19 Interesting Prenuptial Agreement Statistics”.

  • For the past three years, 63% of divorce attorneys say that there has been an increase with the avail of prenuptial agreements.
  • Did you know that 44% of singles or those who are not yet married are thinking that it is a good idea to have a prenup?
  • On the other hand, 15% of individuals who have gone thru divorce regret not having a prenup.
  • 63% of the interviewed people believe that asking for a prenuptial agreement will make them have a higher risk of getting divorce.
  • On the same note as of above, 62% says that asking for prenup send a negative message to their partner who is not requesting for any agreement.

Few of the craziest prenup

Some fun facts from The Talko, here are their “14 Celebrities And Their Insane Prenups”. We picked up some from that article to lighten up our discussion about prenup:

  1. Beyoncé and Jay Z: We all know that having kids and taking care of them is not an easy thing to do. With Beyoncé and Jay Z’s prenup, they make sure that Queen B gets paid whether or not they get divorced as long as she has kids. For every baby that they will be having, Queen B will have $5 million (roughly PHP 200,000,000). And if they get divorced, Beyoncé will receive 1 million dollars for every year they are married.
  2. Jessica Simpson and Tony Romo: Jessica and Tony were never married but their supposed to be prenup states that Simpson will give Romo $500,000 for every pound she gained over 135 pounds. Do you think it affects their plan to marry? Hmmm…
  3. Kim Kardashian and Kanye West: The couple did not include any child custody to their prenup. However, there is a clause that Kris Jenner is not permitted to make any decisions concerning the couple. Moreover, Kim should keep the ring and all the gifts Kanye gave her. She will also have 1 million dollars for every year of their marriage, keep her income from her clothing lines, TV show, and appearance.
  4. Khloe Kardashian and Lamar Odom: Did you know that in Khloe and Lamar’s prenup, Khloe is left with 2 million dollars? You might think that it is quite small compared to other celebrities’ clauses but wait, there’s more: The 2 million dollars are for the four years that they were together as a married couple. Moreover, Khloe gets courtside seats to the Lakers games, a brand new car for every time her lease is up, a monthly shopping allowance that costs $5,000 (around PHP 200,000), plus $25,000 monthly support, and $1,000 per month for her beauty care. And don’t forget that Khloe gets to keep the house! Small amount? Not really.
  5. Nicole Kidman and Keith Urban: Keith will get $640,000 for every year of their marriage. But wait – the money won’t be given if he will use any illegal drugs.
  6. Mark Zuckerberg and Priscilla Chan: Unlike the other couples’ prenup, Zuckerberg and Chan’s have a lifestyle clause. Per week, Chan should have a 100-minute alone time with Zuckerberg and a date night. During this, neither of them should go online on Facebook. Yeah, it may be cute and a little bit sad as well – you already need to include this in a prenup to make a date night and alone time happen.

After reading through some topics about prenuptial agreement, have you thought of getting a prenup? Should you or not? Let us see:

Why should you not have a prenup?

  1. Similar to what the statistics have presented, your partner, especially if the decision to get a prenup is not mutually initiated, might get hurt. No matter how you explain for him or her to understand, it may give off a different signal.
  2. Coming from the previous point, this may result in a message that you are thinking of possibilities of you and your spouse separating, sooner or later.
  3. For other people, it is a waste of time and effort. Why do you even need to have something to make and follow conditions? Can it just be about trust and discipline?
  4. Marriage is a celebration of love and unity. Why would you like to separate yourself, particularly your properties?
  5. If you have nothing to lose or to gain, there is probably not enough motivation for you to get a prenup.

Why should you have a prenup?

  1. It is a way to protect your personal properties. Not really being selfish and too materialistic, you just want to be financially independent.
  2. An avenue where you and
    our partner can express your respective individuality.
  3. You have a legally binding material to whatever clause you would be putting there. You have a document to go back to, and both of you are protected by it.
  4. It would be beneficial especially if your partner is a foreigner. Remember that not all countries follow the same rules and laws. You need to have something that is binding and clear to the both of you.
  5. If one, or both of you have children from previous relationships, it will be better if you have a
  6. prenup to clear out the blurred lines properly.
  7. It is not that you think your partner just loves your money. But it won’t do any harm if you will get a prenup particularly if you and your partner have an enormous gap concerning properties and assets.
  8. Moreover, it somewhat boosts and promotes personal and professional growth of each in the relationship.

Final note

couple thinking prenup

Prenuptial agreements may sound promising to others and annoying to some. We are coming from different context, stories, and background. A prenup might have worked well for other marriages, but it does not assure us that it is for all couples.

As what experts would argue, prenup is not for everyone. Some people believe that they do not have any reason to get a prenup at all. They do not have enough properties to protect. It may sound funny, but with the current situation of our country where many people are living below the poverty line, you can not push them to get prenup. They have many things to think about than getting a piece of paper that they will mind for the rest of their lives.

On the other hand, people who have many reasons to go for having prenup should not be judged as well. They have their own perspectives on why is it essential for their relationships. We are not in their shoes to think and feel for them.

At the end of the day, you get to make sure that whatever decision you will be making, be it prenup or other things, will do more good than harm to your relationship.

 

11 Tips for a Healthy and Happy Marriage

Like what the old and wise people say, marriage does not stop from the wedding. It only marks another chapter in your relationship as a couple. Well yes, congratulations for a successful wedding ceremony – with an excellent venue, top-tier catering services, well-planned program, and attentive guests. But then again, whatever you had in that day or night is different from the one that you will have for the rest of your lives.

Marriage may be overwhelming and sounds like an adventure for others. So for this journey to last healthily and happily, what can you do?

Do things together

One definite way that could help you achieve a healthy, happy and long-lasting marriage is by doing physical activities together. Basically, doing things together already have a good effect for the both of you, as individuals and as a couple. What may happen if you will be engaging in physical activities together, right? You may try out dancing, exercising or running. Also, why not do household chores together?

On the other hand, if you or your partner (or the both of you) are not interested in that kind of things, reading books together or doing things that interest the both of you will also do.

old couple

Travel just the two of you

Having kids and other responsibilities may, at some point, some sort of take over your relationship as a couple. Things are definitely not the same since you have many things to consider. Nevertheless, your bond as partners should never fade. Travelling is often perceived as a way where one can relax and reconnect with nature and with oneself.

Thru this activity, you and your partner may savor your few moments of being alone together. It is a rare opportunity that you can get to do this thing even if you are already married and with kids.

Make your day offs count!

Work, work, work – never-ending work. Unfortunately, others are too attached to their business even if they are already at home (which is very sad). Work-life balance might be too idealistic, but it is not so hard to achieve. Well, it depends on the context of our jobs, right? But giving enough time for the family and friends is something that we should not take for granted.

Some only have one day off for a week. You may be lucky if you have two or three. What you can and should is to make those days count. Leave your works at the office because they won’t be called as “rest day” for nothing.

Treat each other like best friends

More than being lovers and partners treat each other like best friends. Like what they say, nothing could beat the relationship of having your best friend as your lifelong partner. Be open and share secrets to each other, just like what you do with your closest friends. Remember that you will be with that person for the rest of your life and you do not want to have a weak and unhealthy relationship with them.

Reminisce and relieve your young days

Aside from treating each other like best friends, another good exercise is by reminiscing and reliving your good old days. Hang out and have fun like kids! Go to where you usually go when you were just starting out as a couple. Eat the food you missed since you have been busy with your other engagements. Watch movies, stay in a coffee shop, play arcades, swim at the beach or at a local pool.

Truly, age is just a number. What matters most is what is in your mind and your heart. Time may pass by, but the memories you share together will forever be there.

Never forget the 6 C’s of relationships

We are all aware that love is fundamental in every relationship. And according to Collette Gee, a well-known Holistic Relationship Coach and a matchmaker, there are six essential Cs in every happy and healthy relationship. Here are they:

  • Communication – Every individual is honest and thinking before speaking. They follow active listening meaning they listen to understand and not just to reply. Moreover, they are open to see different points of view or perspectives.
  • Compromise – This requires the concept of giving and take. Practicing active listening and proper negotiation is very much important in compromising. It is not all the time one should be followed, and one will remain passive. Both have the time to speak up, listen, follow and be followed.
  • Commitment – As coming from Collette’s words, “Commitment is more than being in an exclusive relationship. It is an integral part of a healthy relationship that involves a mutually agreed upon, and a willingness between both parties to commit.”
  • Compatibility – True enough, opposites do attract but not all the time. It is also important that the both of you have a common ground where you jive or understand each other. Having everything the same does not equate to compatibility.
  • Consideration (respect) – Consideration to others’ emotions and personality is an essential key to a good and lasting relationship. Collette said that there are four elements of respect: attention, honor or esteem, valuing and appropriate conduct. Never forget that a relationship will not flourish and last happily if there would be no mutual respect from the individuals.
  • Conduct – Conduct is appropriate to mutual respect, as what Collette argued. It is probably the totality of consideration or respect – attention, honor or esteem and valuing.

Visit your doctor and dentists

Regular check-ups are essential and making sure that both of you is well and healthy. Never miss those dates and prioritize those. Schedule those and make sure you are going to follow it. There is no next time for health and wellness.

Talk about fun, philosophical, random things

Aside from physical health, mental health is also vital and necessary in keeping a healthy and happy marriage. Go for a walk and discuss over fun and silly things. You may sip some coffee while having a good conversation about philosophical and exciting topics. In short – make a good discourse with your partner. It may sound ridiculous at first like the both of you are acting to be smart. You are both gifted with brains and wittiness, right?

Do not be shy to open up and listen to your partner’s comments and point of view. Learn how to accept that it is not all the time you will have the same opinion on matters. Agree to disagree, argue and debate but at the end of the day, do not forget to reconcile. Just be objective while you at the same time is being personal.

Senior couple holding hands, close up

Inspire and motivate each other

A healthy and happy marriage is the one that inspires and motivates the individuals to be the best version of them. They will feel that they are loved and cared for, that they are important. The partner will make his or her special someone believe that there will always be room for improvements and it is never bad. It is good to be better and chase after your dreams and goals in life.

Make sure for the each of you to have a “me day”

While it is good that you have activities done as one, it would also be a good breather that each of you will have a “me day.” My professor shared that she and her husband reserved at least one Saturday per month for each them to bond with their friends, families, officemates and whoever (as long as they are not doing bad things). They believe that their individuality is still important even if they are already married and officially as one. She said that there are times that the both of them gets lazy to go out and they end up bonding with each other.

This point is very much related to the next one:

Do not lose yourself in the process

Your personal identity is still valuable even if you are already married or have a family of your own. You, as a person, are different from anyone else. You are not simply a spouse, a parent, a child or whatever – you are you. You are the only one who can define yourself – not your work, duties, and responsibilities, neither are your possessions.

Living a married life is really different and sometimes makes you wonder, “Do I still know me?” A relationship will not last happily and healthily if you lose a grip on yourself. How will you function as a couple if you do not even know who you are? So please be guided: do not lose yourself in the process.

Some people get to know more about themselves while they are in the journey with other people. So enjoy that!

 

We hope that you get enough idea on what you can do with your partner or with yourself. Loving each other is probably the greatest key for a good relationship, but it should be the kind of love that empowers the both of you and your marriage as well. Have fun this crazy and beautiful ride!